New parents often go through a disappointing time after the initial glow post birth passes.  This is actually more common than you might think.  When each parent wants to be “right” and “know the answer,” with a new baby, there can be power struggles between them. It helps if you both take a deep breath, remember that you love and respect each other, and then sit down, when neither one of you is exhausted and talk about what each of you thinks and why. Listen with the intent of learning from each other and sharing information not with the intent of winning and being right.  Have some favorite parenting books you both read or one reads key paragraphs to the other. Discuss the author’s insights.  Come up with a parenting philosophy that you can both live with and that respects both your positions.  Got the Baby Where’s the Manual?!? has a chapter on making this transition from couple to family and the pitfalls to avoid.  The key is getting off your “position,” both of you, and being willing to really listen and try each other’s ideas and see how they affect your baby.